Since your parents are the first law in your new-born world, the first pleasure and the first love hopefully ...most children would hold up a hand and say, "Hey I like that ...how can I get more or give more and/or be more like them .."
Some of us kids are not as fortunate. Some of us kids had really terrible examples for parents. Some of us kids wonder why we fawkin' even came into the world while listening to parents complain how costly, how tiresome and how worthless we were/are and have been. Some of us over heard stories about how "they" our mom or dad or both were soooo much happier before we were born.
But what the fawk right?
Right.
I lost my parents at eight years old. So as for them ...to me ...they've been since a made up dream of stuff conjured most of my growing youth ...I couldn't even tell you if I ended up similar to them or not except for professions.:shrug
I can say one thing and one thing only. If you can question your intensions as an adult before you react on your emotions ...you're into improving not damaging what may be suspect of having been bad.
I do not have the good vocabulary to write this correctly. Excuse me.
What I mean is given the choice to react or a choice to think ...I would chose to think. You usually learn how to react from examples [parents]. Therefore in my case at least I am giving myself the opportunity to rethink what may be a reaction that could be wrong or incorrect or misguided or mal-nurtured. I've had a lot of bad examples of parents while living in other households.
I always rid the word no from my adult vocabulary, hating that word when as a child having heard it so often from host families.
NO means: I'm tired, can't explain and you exhaust me. Or in some cases you're too over whelming or you're interrupting me or annoying me and demanding of me and ...also go away why don't you.
I've replaced that word no with the phrase "I'm Listening."
It did wonders for me the first eight years of my life with my real parents. They never used the word no. I couldn't tell if they were burnt out by my millions of questions. I couldn't tell if they cared or couldn't care of things that interested me but they listened. Couldn't tell if they had the time or had a hard time understanding ... all I know is for the first eight years I heard, "I'm listening." And they did.
Now,
Me too.
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Desmo
edited for some grammar:rolleyes