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I was shoveling snow earlier, and for whatever reason, had an epiphany regarding the inner workings of men, women, and their gender-specific take on relationships.
Genesis: "Women are fucked up". "Yeah, well, men are assholes".
Both statements are true; here is where the similarities end, however.
Men objectify. The first thing that grabs their attention regarding a woman is some physical component that, by some bit of super-magic, will manifest itself into said creature becoming the "perfect woman". When does this not happen? When that woman doesn't channel all of her relationship-based energy into him, and make him the primary focus of her male-based world (marriage and long-term relationships notwithstanding...these require different duration-based elements altogether). Typically, a man will tire of a woman that doesn't fill that role to his satisfaction, for the benefit of both.
Women, on the other hand, objectify in a different sense. They see men not as who they are as individuals, but as a sum of utilitarian concepts (potential father/provider/sexual partner/etc.) Women do not love men, but love what a man can do for them. Men are little more than a means to an end; often times, a dynamic end that is shifting based on whatever the current agenda is (security, childbirth, etc.)
In practical terms:
Men will always want a "10", but typically seek them with the misguided premise that such adoration is reciprocated. Yeah, we think you're hot, but it's really all about you thinking we're worthy of your hotness. Men want the "10", but will take the "6.5" and be content, so long as the other "3.5" is comprised of attributes compatible with his. Men may be pigs, but if you've ever wondered "why is he with her" (and we all have), well...it's because she's a "10" in her own right. This is called "compromise", and is the basis for all relationships; not to be confused with "settling".
Women don't care if you're a "10" or a "3.5" (unless they're in a strip club). If you can provide for her, and occasionally find yourself clairvoyant enough to read her mind, you're in. Conversely, if you've ever asked yourself why is she with him, it's not because he has any particular glowing attributes that made her look beyond the superficialities of aesthetic beauty, it's because he can do something for her. And no matter where that woman is on the 1-10 scale, it's a given that she'll temporarily fill the balance with all of the qualities that she pretended to possess when you met her, allowing you to believe you've still got that perfect "10"...and she's all yours. This is called "exploitation", and is the basis for some of the most shameful examples of human behaviour for centuries.
So there.
EDIT: Ya know, if everyone else has known all of this since forever, and it's taken me 35 years to realize it, don't say so and make me feel like an ignoramus. I'm reveling in my brilliance.
Genesis: "Women are fucked up". "Yeah, well, men are assholes".
Both statements are true; here is where the similarities end, however.
Men objectify. The first thing that grabs their attention regarding a woman is some physical component that, by some bit of super-magic, will manifest itself into said creature becoming the "perfect woman". When does this not happen? When that woman doesn't channel all of her relationship-based energy into him, and make him the primary focus of her male-based world (marriage and long-term relationships notwithstanding...these require different duration-based elements altogether). Typically, a man will tire of a woman that doesn't fill that role to his satisfaction, for the benefit of both.
Women, on the other hand, objectify in a different sense. They see men not as who they are as individuals, but as a sum of utilitarian concepts (potential father/provider/sexual partner/etc.) Women do not love men, but love what a man can do for them. Men are little more than a means to an end; often times, a dynamic end that is shifting based on whatever the current agenda is (security, childbirth, etc.)
In practical terms:
Men will always want a "10", but typically seek them with the misguided premise that such adoration is reciprocated. Yeah, we think you're hot, but it's really all about you thinking we're worthy of your hotness. Men want the "10", but will take the "6.5" and be content, so long as the other "3.5" is comprised of attributes compatible with his. Men may be pigs, but if you've ever wondered "why is he with her" (and we all have), well...it's because she's a "10" in her own right. This is called "compromise", and is the basis for all relationships; not to be confused with "settling".
Women don't care if you're a "10" or a "3.5" (unless they're in a strip club). If you can provide for her, and occasionally find yourself clairvoyant enough to read her mind, you're in. Conversely, if you've ever asked yourself why is she with him, it's not because he has any particular glowing attributes that made her look beyond the superficialities of aesthetic beauty, it's because he can do something for her. And no matter where that woman is on the 1-10 scale, it's a given that she'll temporarily fill the balance with all of the qualities that she pretended to possess when you met her, allowing you to believe you've still got that perfect "10"...and she's all yours. This is called "exploitation", and is the basis for some of the most shameful examples of human behaviour for centuries.
So there.
EDIT: Ya know, if everyone else has known all of this since forever, and it's taken me 35 years to realize it, don't say so and make me feel like an ignoramus. I'm reveling in my brilliance.
