Of cheating and such...

nu-uh:shake

Okay, here's a twist...would the quality of the individual he/she cheated on make a difference?

I was with someone for 3 years when I met Allison, my now wife. Allison was "the other woman" for a year. My answer is "yes".

As long as you're not married, those things happen. I was never faithful before I was married. I never made the big commitment. Now that I'm married, I would never consider stepping out. Love the wife too much to do that.

Yes I could, and yes it would.

If their relationship was at it's ending point anyway, then it would be okay. Alot of times a person isnt happy with who they are with, but they wont do anything about it, until someone else comes along. My feelings would really depend on the exact situation.

Okay, let's keep twisting...let's say that he/she is in fact cheating within the confines of marriage...does that make a difference?

This is a very loaded question.

Your first instinct is to say no because if they cheated on someone else, what's to say they won't cheat on you?

I guess it fully depends on the situation. I don't agree with cheating but we're human and as such we're not perfect.

I think the person they're cheating on does kind of make a difference sometimes.... but then in the back of my head I'm wondering why they don't just leave that person.

Too many variables and situations for me to give a good answer.

That is a very tough question. There are a lot of things that factor into an answer to it. In some situations I think it is possible. As people have said, the person that they are cheating on is a factor. Also the degree of the relationship. If it is really over, but the people are just going through the motions, then I might say yes.

I agree with Rue though... too many variables and situations.

You know, this IS is a loaded question, but consider this; the answers to all of these 'variables' are probably coming from the person that is in fact cheating on someone.

So, therein lies the rub; you need answers, but would you trust those answers to begin with? If this is a subjective scenario, are you going to put your trust in someone who is engaged in deception, to give you the determinate reasons to legitimize the situation?

My last relationship was with a girl who told me that she had cheated on a previous boyfriend. Right before we split up she had been working in another state for 6 months. I believe that she had met someone out there and started cheating. I have never cheated and I wouldn't see anyone else until I knew that I was free and clear of my previous relationship. So, maybe due to personal experience, I believe that once you cheat you are more llikely to cheat in the future.

Only the person involved can answer that question....you are the only person who has to live with your own conscience and live with the consequences. So is life..you live and you learn (either by your own mistakes or by observing others). Just don't make the same mistake twice. But then again, we are creatures of habit and familiarzation.

The main question is........Does she swallow? :confused

Jericho_II said:
Could you be in a romantic, trusting relationship with someone that cheated on someone else to be with you?

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Um, fuck no! I would never take a person like that seriously....Have some integrity and leave the person before cheating on them...Once a cheat, always a cheat, if you're gonna waste time with someone like that, leave your emotions at the door and enjoy it for what it's worth...Nothing..

Jericho_II said:
You know, this IS is a loaded question, but consider this; the answers to all of these 'variables' are probably coming from the person that is in fact cheating on someone.

So, therein lies the rub; you need answers, but would you trust those answers to begin with? If this is a subjective scenario, are you going to put your trust in someone who is engaged in deception, to give you the determinate reasons to legitimize the situation?

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People who justify cheating either #1 have cheated on their partner or #2 Have never been the one hurt by it.

Rue said:
we're human and as such we're not perfect.

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Citadel thinks he is.:redflip

Jericho_II said:
You know, this IS is a loaded question, but consider this; the answers to all of these 'variables' are probably coming from the person that is in fact cheating on someone.

So, therein lies the rub; you need answers, but would you trust those answers to begin with? If this is a subjective scenario, are you going to put your trust in someone who is engaged in deception, to give you the determinate reasons to legitimize the situation?

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no, because they are lying to everyone else, therefore, there is nothing in their conscience stopping them from lying to you.

cheaters have no honour.

EVERY girl who ever cheated WITH me, ended up cheating ON me.

ALL of them.

That's my input, take it for what it's worth.............................

Jericho_II said:

Could you be in a romantic, trusting relationship with someone that cheated on someone else to be with you?

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been there, done that. Without even looking at the rest of the thread, I'm gonna advise against it. Whenever I did, it just kept happening to me too. :mad

Crusher said:
The main question is........Does she swallow? :confused

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Swallow what?:confused :confused

j/k...she has to swallow for it to be worth it.


If in a marraige, cheating is never right. If ya wanna cheat, get a divorce because it's obvious there are problems and another person isn't gonna solve the problems, only compound them.

As for what Rez said... +1

Yes. I was in a horrible relationship when I met my hubby.He made me see what a "real" relationship should be like and it gave me the strength to end a four year relationship. However I did not sleep with him until it was over between me and my ex.Ive now been with my husband for four years and am in love with him now even more than I was when we first got together.It has never crossed my mind to cheat on him.We just met at a bad time but I knew he was the "one".:love2

Having been through the cheating on both sides of the fence, I believe that I can honestly say yes, I would enter into a committed relationship knowing this.

However, as people have said there are many variables that come into play, and it is also true that if they have done it before they can do it again.

The only way you can prevent someone from cheating on a relationship is by having both partners continually working to keep the relationship healthy. That way, no one wants to leave.