Yea, you have to at least chat with the dude/girl for at least a little while.

 

You must be forgetting your audience... you didn't include "Accept only if you plan on givin' up the booty" :nono



...dave
:redcreep

 

lanispet said:
You must be forgetting your audience... you didn't include "Accept only if you plan on givin' up the booty" :nono



...dave
:redcreep

Oh, my bad!! Can I please get a mod to add this option to my poll!! :laughing

 

I got a chick to buy me a drink before at O in windsor... she was sittin at one of the tables by herself waitin for her other hot friend and I asked, why is it only that guys buy girls drinks, don't you think chicks should buy a guy a drink once in a while? she smiled and laughed and said "can i buy you a drink?" and I said I'll have a jack and coke I returned the favor later on but still... my goal was to get a chick to buy me a drink. mission accomplished :clap

 

Redlined, let's say this girl would have purchased a drink for you of her own volition, rather than because you 'manipulated' the situation... would you have felt like you should talk to her, or no??

 

2uplvr said:
Redlined, let's say this girl would have purchased a drink for you of her own volition, rather than because you 'manipulated' the situation... would you have felt like you should talk to her, or no??

I wouldn't feel obligated to... but I would because any chick that buys me a drink os a badass in my book

 

I don't think anybody should expect anything just because they bought you a drink :shake

Although I've had a woman approach me at a club and ask if she could take me up to the bar and buy me a shot. I knew she just wanted to get in my pants, but I didn't mind

 

Krabill said:
I don't think anybody should expect anything just because they bought you a drink :shake

Although I've had a woman approach me at a club and ask if she could take me up to the bar and buy me a shot. I knew she just wanted to get in my pants, but I didn't mind

You're SUCH a manwhore!! :laughing

 

No, no, no . . . not anymore. I'm a good boy now

 

Sending signals or not sending signals, that really doesn't matter. The guy was attracted to you and in an attempt to be nice he approached you (you have to give him credit for even approaching first off) and then offered to buy you a drink. I'm taking it you accepted the drink. At this point it is more or less expected that from his nice gesture (no matter what his intentions were) that you should atleast extend some gratitude of friendly conversation.

I agree that you don't need to be hand-holdy or anything you are uncomfortable with but one nice gesture atleast deserves one back (conversation in this instance). By doing so, you have atleast acknowledged his gesture and not embarrass or humiliate him.

If you feel smothered from that point on all you have to do is make it known that you aren't interested in anything other than conversation and that you appreciate the drink but trying to have a good time with your friend (or some variation which doesn't include being mean to him).

If he's an ass at that point, do whatever pleases you to make it known you are not interested.

He's just trying to be nice, so why not be nice to him as well?

 

This is the way I look at it.

If you want to buy someone a drink . . . buy them a drink.

If you want to talk to someone . . . go talk to them.

Buying a drink is not a "hang-on-my-arm-all-night" ticket :shake

 

I look at it this way, if I get cold-called by a telemarketer when I am in the middle of doing something, I get annoyed. I don't feel obligated to talk to the person.

Like wise, if a guy is cold-calling you by offering to buy a drink even though you haven't given him any sign that he is being invited to do so, then he should get the same general response that you would give a telemarketer. If you accept the call (take the drink) expect that you will have to talk to the guy. Otherwise, say no thanks, and move on.

 

i think most college students would be of the same opinion that if somebody wants to buy u a drink u take it at least i do cause im dirt poor from tuition bills

 

FL03SilverR6 said:
Sending signals or not sending signals, that really doesn't matter. The guy was attracted to you and in an attempt to be nice he approached you (you have to give him credit for even approaching first off) and then offered to buy you a drink. I'm taking it you accepted the drink. At this point it is more or less expected that from his nice gesture (no matter what his intentions were) that you should atleast extend some gratitude of friendly conversation.

I agree that you don't need to be hand-holdy or anything you are uncomfortable with but one nice gesture atleast deserves one back (conversation in this instance). By doing so, you have atleast acknowledged his gesture and not embarrass or humiliate him.

If you feel smothered from that point on all you have to do is make it known that you aren't interested in anything other than conversation and that you appreciate the drink but trying to have a good time with your friend (or some variation which doesn't include being mean to him).

If he's an ass at that point, do whatever pleases you to make it known you are not interested.

He's just trying to be nice, so why not be nice to him as well?

Holy conclusion jumping to!!!!

I do give anyone mad props for having the courage to approach a stranger and brave possible rejection. I did in fact converse with him. My point is, I literally could not take a step away from him without him taking a step toward me. Not even to talk to my friend that I was there with. And when he tried to hold my hand or get to close, I explained that I don't know him, therefore, that wasn't OK with me.

I wouldn't ever just let someone buy me a drink and then be rude to them. :shake In fact, I usually DON'T let strangers buy me drinks. :shrug

 

Accept, because it means they're willing to accept my drunken advances, unwanted or not.



j/k

 

The next time a guy offers to buy you a drink, say this:

"You may buy me a drink, but I want nothing further to do with you. Don't hit on me, talk to me, or otherwise attempt to communicate with me."

...and see if you actually get the drink.

I think you'll have your answer.

Notice how these guys aren't buying drinks for random guys at the bar, or for women they aren't interested in.

Just say "No, thank you," to the drink offer if you don't feel like chatting. It may feel impolite, but the guy'll probably be happier about it because he will save some money and some time. Either that or he'll probably start talking to you anyway. But at least then he doesn't have anyone to blame but himself.

If they buy you and your friend a round without asking or any prompting, well, that's their problem if you don't want to talk.


Me? I'd rather talk first and then maybe buy a drink.

 

2uplvr said:
Holy conclusion jumping to!!!!

I do give anyone mad props for having the courage to approach a stranger and brave possible rejection. I did in fact converse with him. My point is, I literally could not take a step away from him without him taking a step toward me. Not even to talk to my friend that I was there with. And when he tried to hold my hand or get to close, I explained that I don't know him, therefore, that wasn't OK with me.

I wouldn't ever just let someone buy me a drink and then be rude to them. :shake In fact, I usually DON'T let strangers buy me drinks. :shrug

Not jumping to conclusions, just going with the information provided.

Now that you have elaborated on the subject, you are in the right. His "pushing" himself on you shouldn't have been and apparently wasn't tolerated.

 

Swan - I don't mind chatting at all... in particular if dude is HOT but I also don't want to HAVE TO spend the rest of my evening hanging with someone I didn't go out with. That's the exact reason I don't usually accept drinks from strangers. I don't want anyone to have the wrong impression...

ETA: +1 on the talk first and buy a drink later!!!

 

I voted Accept only if you plan on spending at least a few minutes chatting and that's only if am somewhat interested. If the person looks like someone I would not talk to, I would decline the drink. :shrug

 

2uplvr said:
Swan - I don't mind chatting at all... in particular if dude is HOT but I also don't want to HAVE TO spend the rest of my evening hanging with someone I didn't go out with. That's the exact reason I don't usually accept drinks from strangers. I don't want anyone to have the wrong impression...

off topic... but i always wondered why you have a new avatar just about everyday 2up? :confused

 

I wouldn't ever just let someone buy me a drink and then be rude to them. :shake In fact, I usually DON'T let strangers buy me drinks. :shrug

Probably the wisest choice, here in "The Golden Age of Roofies"

 

If you're a hot chick going to a bar, you should expect guys to want to buy you drinks. Almost all my female friends go to bars and have competitions who can get more guys to buy them drinks. Bump 'n grind a minute or so and they're in... something like that. You don't go clubbing to not be hit on... from what I've seen in my short life

 

I voted Accept only if you plan on spending at least a few minutes chatting and that's only if am somewhat interested. If the person looks like someone I would not talk to, I would decline the drink. :shrug

+1

 

Probably the wisest choice, here in "The Golden Age of Roofies"

Oh… hell no…

If someone buys me a drink, he does so at the bar and the drink never touches him. I’m a little weird about that kind of thing. I really only trust friends handing me drinks. I would never drink something some strange person handed me.

 

Swan - I don't mind chatting at all... in particular if dude is HOT but I also don't want to HAVE TO spend the rest of my evening hanging with someone I didn't go out with...

Hmmm...sounds more like a problem with the guy than with the drink-buying game, then...

Perhaps you should carry an egg-timer and agree to accept the drink on the condition that if he hasn't proven himself to be very interesting within the amount of time it takes to cook a three-minute egg, he'll agree to get lost...

begin.........NOW!

:laughing